Help Couples Transform Their Relationships

Learn how to integrate sexuality in overall couples therapy.

We are all deeply confused about how to manage love, sex and commitment in the modern world. There is one person on the planet with a particularly compelling diagnosis and set of answers. Esther Perel is a guide and mentor for our times.

Alain de Botton

British Philosopher and Founder of The School of Life

Coaching from world-renowned couples and sex therapist to help individuals and couples create, sustain and ignite desire.

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LEARN TO:

Use the sexual relationship as a lens into the individual and the couple’s dynamics.

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Help couples balance their need for security and closeness with their quest for separateness and passion.

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Bring a nuanced therapeutic approach to work with extra-marital relations
(past or present, fantasized or real, secret or revealed).

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Utilize experiential exercises to cultivate eroticism between partners and help them take emotional risks to open up sexual communication.

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Show couples how to use fantasy as a healthy and enriching imaginative tool.

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Develop strategies for couples to bring a sense of aliveness and vitality to their relation and cultivate playfulness, anticipation and mystery in and out of the bedroom.

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Facilitate clients voicing their erotic longings and actively move beyond their comfort zone into an expansive and fully charged sexuality.

Most couples therapists receive very little (if any) training in sexuality. Contrary to popular belief, sexual problems are not always the result of relational problems — and working to improve the emotional relationship may do little to improve the sex.

This training prepares you for working with the most challenging sexual dilemmas couples face. A seven-part online experience developed by world renowned sex and couples therapist Esther Perel, Rekindling Desire provides tools to help both the therapist and client to shift into a new vision for the couple.

You will virtually sit next to Esther in her office as she shows you innovative strategies to help couples unlock sexual blocks, take emotional risks, and enhance their erotic bond.

Using case examples and experiential exercises, Rekindling Desire addresses couples from all sexual orientations. Participate for your own professional or personal development. Get the newest in clinical research and learn skills to apply to your practice.

Participants will learn to…

UNDERSTAND YOUR NEEDS
Engage in a guided process of self-discovery and reflection to connect with your needs.
COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY
Learn tactics to successfully communicate sexual preferences and discuss trauma and fears.
FEEL ALIVE AGAIN
Explore fresh insights and inspiration to break your routines and redefine relational success.

Curriculum

7 PARTS

4 HOURS

27 VIDEOS

15 EXERCISES

Part 1: Getting Started
  • Session 1 – Welcome
  • Session 2 – How to participate
  • Session 3 – Initial evaluation
Part 2: Understanding Eroticism
  • Session 1 – Defining desire
  • Session 2 – Sexuality vs. Eroticism
  • Session 3 – What is an erotic couple?
  • Session 4 – Connecting to your erotic self
Part 3: Sexual Communication
  • Session 1 – Communicating sexual preferences
  • Session 2 – Conflicts, Trauma and Fear
  • Session 3 – Sexuality Verbs
  • Session 4 – Generative communication
Part 4: Obstacles to Desire
  • Session 1 – Culture matters
  • Session 2 – Physical barriers
  • Session 3 – Breaches of trust
  • Session 4 – Intervention: Lena and Roberto
  • Session 5 – Intervention: Allen
  • Session 6 – Intervention: Stephanie
Part 5: Sex After Kids
  • Session 1 – When 3 threatens 2
  • Session 2 – How to get back in your groove
  • Session 3 – Intervention: Gregory and Tanya
Part 6: Breaking Routine
  • Session 1 – Breaking routine
  • Session 2 – Creating an erotic environment
  • Session 3 – Foreplay
  • Session 4 – Autonomy: Desire needs mystery and distance to thrive
  • Session 5 – Fantasy and Imagination
Part 7: Expanding the Definition of Sex
  • Session 1 – Our perception of ‘normal’ sexuality
  • Session 2 – Final Evaluation

Esther is recognized as one of the world’s most original and insightful thinkers about couples, sexuality, and the peculiar paradoxes besetting modern marriage in the Western world. Her mission is to create an inclusive conversation about relationships and help people feel more connected — across ages, races, and along the sexuality spectrum. 

  • Practicing psychotherapist for over 32 years, with over 30,000 hours of experience.
  • Focus on long-term strategies, not short-term easy fixes.
  • Her book Mating in Captivity won the 2009 book award from the Society for Sex Therapy and Research.
  • AASECT Certified Therapist and Supervisor.
  • Trained and supervised by Dr. Salvador Minuchin.
  • Member of the American Family Therapy Academy.
  • Member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research.
What people are saying about Rekindling Desire…

Before starting this course, I was a bit skeptical of how the content would be relevant to my own situation. However, personalization is at the core of Esther’s approach: she teaches you that desire comes from reconnecting with yourself and shows you how to do that. Her workshop has helped me to rediscover my own sense of curiosity and vitality that I can bring into every relationship.

Christa V.

Chicago, IL

There is a lot of sameness, redundancy and ridiculously unrealistic “wisdom” in the field of marital advice in this day and age, and despite wading through much of it over the years, it was easy to emerge out the other side and still find myself contemplating marriage and monogamy with the hollow thud of, “Is this all there is?” It took finding Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity to realize that the answer is a resounding, “No.”

Sarah C.

Arlington, VA

Esther’s online course Rekindling Desire is in a league of it’s own. It’s a far cry from any formulaic, one-size-fits-all approach. She invites participants to use her suggestions in a creative way to suit their own particular needs and temperaments. What she offers is encouragement, hope and fresh avenues of exploration both conversational and practical. Most of all she inspires with her understanding and humor, her honesty, imagination and intelligence and the sheer wealth of insight she has gleaned in her extensive international therapeutic practice. We have been married for 35 years now, and Esther’s conversation-starters got us talking about old difficulties in a new way. It takes the will to persevere and the courage to try, but the course has helped us to open up new, refreshing, and rewarding ways to reconnect with each other that we may never have discovered without her help.

John M. (San Francisco, CA)

Rekindling Desire is a rare, online workshop experience: intimate, insightful, fast-paced, and with an international perspective. As a 50-year-old lesbian in a long-term committed relationship, I thought my sex life was over. Wrong! Esther truly, lovingly and creatively guided us back to welcome the discourse, intention, and care to journey back to erotic coupleship. Thank you, Esther, for this course — and thank you for igniting careful, empowering and kind energy around this important topic: rekindling our life-energy.

Kirsten J.

Atlanta, GA

“The tension between the erotic and the domestic is a paradox to manage, not a problem to solve.”  ESTHER PEREL 

“Love never dies a natural death. it dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source.”    ANAIS NIN
Life’s love for itself is reflected in human sexuality.”     FELICE NEWMAN 
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.”  MARCEL PROUST
“Great lovers are made, not born.” PEGGY KLEIN PLATZ

LEARN AT YOUR OWN PACE

All workshop content is available to you as soon as you register. You can participate in the modules at your own pace. Revisit and review as much as you like.

100% RISK FREE GUARANTEE

Give it a try and if you go through the first 3 modules and decide the content is not for you, we will refund you 100% within 30 days of your purchase.

MOBILE & TABLET FRIENDLY

Workshop content can be viewed on any device. You can even download audio mp3 files to add to your mobile device playlists.

MULTIPLE FORMATS

The workshop content is delivered in a video player, audio downloads, and written transcripts — participate in the way most convenient for you!

A typical 45 minute private counseling session with Esther is $500. You’ll get her world-class teaching and unlimited access to 4 hours of content, 27 videos, downloadable MP3s, downloadable written transcripts, and 15 exercises.
+ FREE Partner Login! ($497.00 value)

all for $497

FAQs

Can I get Continuing Education credits for my participation?
Unfortunately, we are not offering CE’s for this workshop at this time.
How do I access the workshop?
Upon registration, participants receive an email with his or her personal login information. You’ll enter credentials on Esther’s Programs website (programs.estherperel.com), and unlock immediate access to all content. The content is pre-recorded and you can participate at your own pace.
What if I have questions while going through the content?
Our support team is here to help. Just email us at support@estherperel.com.
If participating with my partner, do we need to register for two workshops?
One registration is good for both you and your partner (one additional person only) to participate. When you receive your Welcome Email, there is an opportunity to add your partner’s email address to send them their login information.
What if I want to rekindle desire, but my partner is not on board?
I encourage you to take responsibility for your contributions to the relationship dynamic. If you alter your behavior and actions, you will inevitably changed the relational dynamic. If the relational dynamic shifts, the relationship shifts. And if the relationship shifts, you in turn, change the other. Even if you’re partner is not interested in watching the videos and doing the exercises with you, I hope you take away new potential entry points for conversations and experiences. 
I’m single. Is Rekindling Desire good for me, even if I am not currently in a relationship?
Absolutely. The workshop is built for individuals and couples. We feel there is a lot to gain in understanding yourself and the partner you wish to become as well as taking the material and utilizing it in future relationships. We all live in relationships, even if you don’t happen to be in a long-term partnership today.
Will I get one-on-one advice from Esther?
This is a pre-recorded session so participants can participate at their own pace. We welcome you to share your thoughts and questions in the comments of the video or on the Facebook page and Esther and her team will do their best to give valuable feedback. You may even see your question be answered in a future newsletter or discussion!

What makes Rekindling Desire different than other relationship advice out there?

Rekindling Desire is an inclusive, non-judgmental approach to the erotic, which encompasses all sexual identities, relationship configurations, and ages. Each training component is designed to help you think critically about your erotic connection, and encourage ideas to build your own interventions that are right for you and your partner(s).

It’s not too late to have great sexual and emotional intimacy.

If you want to invest in your erotic life, and keep it fresh and stimulating for yourself, and your partner, Rekindling Desire is the workshop for you. This workshop provides a framework to rekindle desire in any relationship; methods, exercises and insight into how to shift your current thinking when it comes to your intimate life.

Have a question? Email our team at support@estherperel.com